Setting boundaries is an essential life skill that protects and empowers you, so you'll experience less drama and more harmony in your relationships. Dear Friends,
Many of our readers have shared that they would like to express their personal needs and limits with greater confidence. So, we wanted to bring you an empowering course that addresses how to set healthy boundaries, even in the most delicate or closest relationships. Today we're speaking with communications and leadership expert, Dr. Jody Janati about her DailyOM course Assert Yourself Without Isolating Others. Please read on.
Course OverviewAnyone can cultivate healthy boundaries to build closer and more authentic relationships with the people in their lives. In this course, communications expert Dr. Jody Janati offers practical guidance on how to interact more effectively in any situation. Insightful exercises and tips will help you create more calm, constructive dialogues that clearly express your needs. By the end, you'll have all you need to positively transform your connections and self-confidence.
- Receive a new lesson every day for 5 days (total of 5 lessons).
- Have lifetime access to the course for reference whenever you want.
- Select the amount you can afford, and get the same course as everyone.
- If you are not 100% satisfied, you may request a refund.
How much do you want to pay?$15$35$50
This is the total amount for all 5 lessons
Interview With Dr. Jody Janati DailyOM: Why are boundaries so necessary in our personal relationships?
Jody Janati: We live in a world full of diverse viewpoints and varied perspectives, and clear communication is a must if we want to live a healthy, balanced social life. Once we accept that conflict is an inevitable part of our day-to-day activities with others, we can learn strategies to best handle the difficult interactions we will come across. I cannot think of one person who will not face a moment where they will feel that their boundaries have been overstepped or their integrity has been compromised. Boundary setting is a communication skill that adds value to your life and allows you to experience less drama with others. But it is also important to keep in mind that boundary setting is not about trying to change other people; it is about setting limits and deciding what you are willing to put up with from others.
DailyOM: Setting and communicating boundaries can be difficult, especially in intimate relationships like with a spouse or family member. Why is this so? How do you help support students with this issue?
JJ: We have all heard the statement, "We hurt the people we love the most." People have a tendency to behave more freely around their loved ones and often save their tact for those who don't know them as well, or those they are trying to impress. People easily move to a fight (anger), a flight (abandonment), or a freeze (stonewall) response when triggered during conflict. If the interaction is too intense, it is easy for some people to eliminate all contact with that person going forward. However, with the people we are intimately involved with on a day-to-day basis, we realize they are part of our very existence. To shut them out completely is not a practical solution. The good news is that there are ways to overcome difficult interactions with these people. Once you understand that it is not the person with whom you are upset, but rather it is the issue with the person that is the real problem, you are able to endure.
For example, we might hear someone say, "He is rude and entitled!" but when asked what they want him to do, they might say, "I need him to be on time for work!" Now we can see that the name calling quickly turned into an issue. In fact, once we remove all pronouns and verbs, we can make the issue quite clear, calm, and rational. We might pause, think it through, and then change the upcoming confrontation from "you are rude and entitled" to "arriving late to work has become an issue." The goal is to offer them the opportunity to be responsible and accountable for their actions, without creating conflict. If they choose not to comply, there is understanding coupled with a consequence, rather than resistance and conflict. Thus, boundary setting is not personal; it is simply functional.
DailyOM: This 5-day course is highly practical. Tell us about the kinds of tools you teach.
JJ: This course focuses on identifying personal stress triggers so one can learn to avoid "plugging in" when someone does something that they cannot support or tolerate. This course is compact and gets straight to the point to help you define assertiveness and then apply step-by-step techniques that are fair, balanced, and actually work. Students will learn to be cool, calm, and collected with others. The goal is that by the end of the course, people will feel empowered and be capable of clearly stating their expectations, setting healthy boundaries, and carrying out a consequence if needed.
DailyOM: What are the most important aspects to know when it comes to successfully communicating a boundary?
JJ: The goal of successful communication is to be calm and assertive and lay out what you want, need, or will do, rather than to tell others what they need or should do on your behalf. The key is that you cannot change people, but you can change your responses to them. It is also important to understand how one's thoughts affect reality. We can learn to work through our own anger, fear, and stress before approaching someone. Likewise, we can try to understand their perspectives and potential responses to a situation so we are better able to grasp the situation. This process will ultimately allow you to find your "conversation peace."
How Does It Work?Starting today, you will receive a new lesson every day for 5 days (total of 5 lessons). Each lesson is yours to keep and you'll be able to refer back to it whenever you want. And if you miss a lesson or are too busy to get to it that day, each lesson will conveniently remain in your account so you won't have to search for it when you're ready to get back to it.
Free GiftAs a free gift, when you sign up for this course, you will also receive the award-winning DailyOM inspiration newsletter which gives you daily inspirational thoughts for a happy, healthy and fulfilling day. We will also let you know about other courses and offers from DailyOM and Dr. Jody Janati that we think you might be interested in.
Get Started NowWe are offering this course with the option of selecting how much you want to pay. No matter how much you pay, you'll be getting the same course as everybody else. We simply trust that people are honest and will support the author of the course with whatever they can afford. And if you are not 100% satisfied, we will refund your money.
How much do you want to pay?$15$35$50
This is the total amount for all 5 lessons
Boundary setting is a life skill that we all need to learn, but only after we understand what it really is. Yes, it can help us avoid conflict in relationships, but it also means taking responsibility for ourselves and having the self-awareness to honor what our needs are and communicate them in a way that promotes a mutual sense of respect and reciprocity. Until next time.
Be well,
DailyOM
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