by DailyOM Everyone has an inner child that needs attention, and no matter how old you are, your inner child is still there and begging for your attention. Dear Friends,
Today's interview is with Lisa J. Smith about her course, Re-Parent Your Inner Child, which explores the healing journey of reconnecting to your inner child. Lisa brings valuable insights and knowledge to help you better understand yourself, what old wounds are triggering you now, and how to compassionately mend the unhealthy patterns and nurture yourself back to wholeness. Let's hear more from Lisa about this transformative course.
Course OverviewEven though we grow up physically, part of us still remains a child. Childlike play, fun, and wonder help us enjoy life, but sometimes our inner child can be triggered and sabotage us with sudden reactions of fear, anger, and jealousy, without intention. Through guided meditations and journaling exercises, you'll learn to understand your inner child, become less reactive to unwanted triggers, and experience a more balanced way of living. In this course you will develop skills to bridge your adult self with your inner child, which will lead to joy, laughter, fun, success, and healthy relationships.
- Receive a new lesson every 4 days for 8 weeks (total of 14 lessons).
- Have lifetime access to the course for reference whenever you want.
- Select the amount you can afford, and get the same course as everyone.
- If you are not 100% satisfied, you may request a refund.
How much do you want to pay? $15$35$50This is the total amount for all 14 lessons
Interview With Lisa J. Smith DailyOM: What does it mean to re-parent your inner child?
Lisa Smith: Re-parenting your inner child means nurturing yourself in a different way. Every person has a part of themselves that needs love, guidance, nurturing, and boundaries. That part is our inner child. Every single person on the planet has an inner child that needs attention. No matter how old you are or how much work you have done, your inner child is there and is begging for your attention at various times. Your inner child will always be there reminding you of what he or she needs to feel safe, loved, nurtured, seen, and heard. It is up to your healthy adult to be the one to nurture or re-parent your own inner child. As adults, we are so used to taking care of our physical bodies, talking about our feelings, trying to figure ourselves out, and trying to figure other people out -- why they do what they do or act how they act. When we do this, we are usually doing our work from our present place, or what I call, "our adult place." We are so busy trying to figure things out from that adult place, we never stop to look at the other part of us that is holding onto all our hurt and pain from when we were little.
As children, we all learn coping skills to survive the things that hurt us. We unconsciously carry those into our adulthood, and they become our adult coping skills and unhealthy reactions. We assume that because we are in an adult body now, the child part of us is no longer there. Yet, the inner child is usually the one who is in control during difficult adult moments. Your inner child is the part of you that is trying to heal and is holding onto that old stuff you need to heal. Your inner child needs the attention, love, and validation in order to heal. We all carry this old stuff from our childhood. Since we all have had different experiences as a child, we all have varying degrees of things that may have affected us. No matter the wounds, we all carry them into our adulthood. Your own inner child defenses can affect how you parent your own kids, as well as work relationships, marriages, friendships, and how you are in your communities -- how you treat others, how others treat you, etc. This can create unhealthy relationships all the way around.
What I have found from working with thousands of people over the years is that we all have an inner child that we forget about. It is that part of ourselves we need to learn to listen to and acknowledge in order to heal. The only way to do that is by bridging your adult and your child with love, listening, acknowledgment, and validation. We cannot heal what we don't know. By getting to know your inner child, you can then begin to heal. Everything is energy. The energy from your inner child is affecting the energy you put out today.
DailyOM: Why do we need to do this?
LS: It is so important for everyone to do this work so that we can live more peacefully in the world. When we are peaceful, we are happier. When we are happier, we feel better. When we feel better, we want to do better. When we do better, we can have better relationships in all aspects of our lives. We also can parent our own children better and be better role models for others. This then helps us with our mind, body, and spirit. Again, everything is connected, and it is all energy. By learning to re-parent your inner child, you learn to be less reactive and more proactive in your life. You learn to hold space for others when their inner child is reacting, so you don't take things so personally. By re-parenting your inner child, you begin to understand yourself in ways you never have before, so you can heal.
DailyOM: How do we know if our inner child needs attention?
LS: You know your inner child needs you when you start to feel certain things. It is like your inner child is pulling on your shirt saying, "Hey you up there, I am down here and I need you right now to tell me that everything is going to be okay." When you don't listen, your inner child starts to act out. A non-triggered inner child is fun, playful, joyful, and creative. A triggered inner child may be mad, angry, have temper tantrums, call people names, feel defensive, anxious, overwhelmed, worried, jealous, excluded, and so on. Your inner child comes from fear. Your healthy and present adult knows that there is no fear and nurtures him or her back into a safe place of love and peace. For example, if you start feeling like you are not being heard at work, you may start to feel like you are not being validated. When you are not being validated, you may start to feel resentment. When you are resentful, you start to check out. When you check out, you may develop a negative attitude which will be felt by others at work. This would be an example of your inner child telling you he needs to be seen and heard. This could be from an old wound you felt as a child not being seen or heard, which made you feel afraid. The only person who can help your inner child feel loved, seen, and validated is your healthy adult. Your healthy adult needs to sit for a moment and connect and tell your inner child that things are okay. Let your inner child know that you will handle all the work frustrations; it is not for any child to be at work handling these affairs. Your inner child can come to work with you to be creative and to bring light and joy.
DailyOM: Let's talk about triggers and how they relate to this work.
LS: Our triggers are the little things that push our buttons and remind us of the things we still need to heal. They send out the alarm bells to us that say, "Hey, we need to work on _____ because I am still feeling _____." No one here is perfect. If we are alive, we have triggers, most likely from our childhood. What is being triggered is: your inner child not feeling safe, loved, seen, heard, validated, etc. The goal is to recognize those triggers sooner. Once you know your inner child is being triggered by something, you can take a timeout to acknowledge what is still hurting you. By taking a grown-up timeout to connect with your inner child, you, first and foremost, acknowledge your inner feelings. That is most important. From there you can talk with your inner child to understand why he or she feels bad, to understand the trigger. Once you understand why, you can give the reassurance that he or she is safe and it will be okay. That is why it is called re-parenting your inner child. You are learning to re-parent that little part of you that is being triggered. Our triggers can be beneficial red flags of the things we still need to work on if we learn to work with them in the correct way.
For example, if someone's inner child feels left out all the time, it may be because when she was 5 years old, she felt excluded from her family or community for various reasons. She may have felt that she never fit in. Today as an adult, whenever her best friend makes plans with another group of people and does not invite her, it may trigger her inner child into feeling sad, angry, left out, and abandoned. She may act out by getting jealous, lashing out, or sabotaging her friendship (a coping skill used to protect herself from getting hurt again in the future). It is up to her healthy adult to work with her inner child to understand that it is not because of her that she was not invited. It is because her friend has other friends too, and it is okay to have lots of friends, and the friend's plans have nothing to do with how the person likes or loves you. You re-parent your inner child from a place of validation, love, and compassion. Once you do that, then your inner child shifts her energy into a place of understanding. Once everyone is back in their role as healthy child and healthy adult, then maybe you can make time for a fun date like shopping, dinner, or a nice long walk.
DailyOM: How does this course unfold? Tell us about the journey students will experience.
LS: In this course, you will start by first understanding who your inner child is and who your adult is. You cannot do this work until you understand the roles that each play in your life. From there, you will gain an understanding of your triggers. Once you know what triggers you, you can start to dive into the self-discovery of your own inner child. You then learn to balance between your adult and your inner child. You learn to set boundaries between yourself and others, and you rediscover your happy, healthy inner child. Once you understand yourself a little better and what triggers you, you will learn when you are coming from your adult and your inner child. Then you can start to look at the other relationships in your life and see how both your inner child and another person's inner child have been affecting your relationships. First by understanding and loving yourself, you can create better relationships in all areas of your life.
DailyOM: Tell us about some of the homework included in this course.
LS: The homework in this course is designed to help you dig down a little into that inner child place we all have. It helps you better understand who your child is and who your adult is. It helps you understand your triggers and helps you work through them. Through various unique assignments that pertain to that lesson, you are asked to remember different parts of yourself. All of it is done in a very loving and gentle way to help you bridge the two parts of yourself. The homework is completed in a journal that you create in Lesson 1. This journal is of you, for you, and by you! This becomes your Bridge Book reuniting your adult with your inner child again.
How Does It Work?Starting today, you will receive a new lesson every 4 days for 8 weeks (total of 14 lessons). Each lesson is yours to keep and you'll be able to refer back to it whenever you want. And if you miss a lesson or are too busy to get to it that day, each lesson will conveniently remain in your account so you won't have to search for it when you're ready to get back to it.
Free GiftAs a free gift, when you sign up for this course, you will also receive the award-winning DailyOM inspiration newsletter which gives you daily inspirational thoughts for a happy, healthy and fulfilling day. We will also let you know about other courses and offers from DailyOM and Lisa J. Smith that we think you might be interested in.
Get Started NowWe are offering this course with the option of selecting how much you want to pay. No matter how much you pay, you'll be getting the same course as everybody else. We simply trust that people are honest and will support the author of the course with whatever they can afford. And if you are not 100% satisfied, we will refund your money.
How much do you want to pay? $15$35$50This is the total amount for all 14 lessons
This course is comprehensive, and Lisa's way of guiding you through the coursework is very compassionate and caring. She creates a loving and safe space to explore and communicate to your inner child, which can be a vulnerable experience. But as you practice and move from lesson to lesson, the relationship you cultivate with your inner child will deepen your bond and trust -- and give you courage. Until next time.
Be well,
DailyOM
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