In a world of harshness, it is time to soften and expand how we go about our life.


In order to get what we want in life, we have to be willing to receive it when it appears, and in order to do that, we have to be open. Often we go through life with defenses we developed early on. These act as barriers, walls we needed at one time to feel safe but that now serve to shut out desired influences, like intimacy or love. So an essential part of being receptive to what we want is to soften these barriers enough to let those things in when they show up. For example, we may spend a lot of time alone as a way to protect ourselves from being hurt by other people, but this prevents us from meeting new friends.

Another obstacle to our receptivity can be our tendency to believe that we have to act aggressively in order to achieve our desired goal. These types of beliefs can give us tunnel vision, so we fail to see, and be open to, other opportunities. But becoming receptive often involves softening our defenses and a willingness to remain open to possibilities outside our immediate realm of vision.

If we are looking for love or friendship, it means first looking within ourselves to see where we are shut down and not getting too fixated on where we might find the love we want. In this way, we become more open as individuals and more expansive in terms of what we see as possible.