Real love and true emotional intimacy exist when two people are free and safe to be completely real with each other in every moment.

Dear Friends,

Intimacy without responsibility. How did you react when reading those words? Maybe a little shocked? It probably doesn't mean what you think, and I urge you to read my full interview below with course author, Wendyne Limber, to find out more!


Madisyn Taylor: Let's cut right to the chase. The title of this course is very provocative. What does it really mean?

Wendyne Limber: Yes. The title is very provocative and as you might imagine, I have had some unusual responses and reactions to the title. Most people who ask about it are curious, intrigued, and excited to know what it means. Some have been offended and think it has something to do with being sexual and irresponsible. It is actually about being in relationships with people you love without feeling responsible for their reactions, pain, feelings, or even success or joy. Also, it is an attitude of allowing people to be responsible for their own reactions and feelings so that communication with another can be real and truthful. I believe intimacy without responsibility is an art actually, and one must be able to look deeply within and be willing to do some healing and transformation to live, think, and communicate in this way. It is knowing that you can be emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually intimate with someone and still be free to be you, to be me.

MT: Tell me about your background and how you started doing this work.

WL: I have been working in the field of transpersonal psychology and drama therapy for almost 30 years. I became licensed as a marriage and family therapist after teaching emotionally impaired teens for 10 years. Personally I had to heal myself in each different area before I could give to anyone else. Everything I write or teach about is the result of my own healing and transformation. In this particular work, I am writing to my own family and loved ones in a way as I was transforming myself, moving from codependency to interdependency, giving myself permission to have a voice, speak my truth, and live an extraordinary life.

MT: Why do so many people have issues with speaking their truth and being intimate in a relationship?

WL: People are fearful of speaking their truth because they are afraid of the reaction of the person they are speaking to. We all want people to love and approve of us and will do almost anything to get that. People are afraid of hurting others' feelings, making people angry, and even falsely believe they could kill someone if the truth were spoken, i.e., if I tell my truth he will have a heart attack. Real love and true emotional intimacy exist when two people can be completely free to be real, whatever that means in the moment. Being real means that I have the freedom and safety to be who I am, to express who I am in the now according to me. Keep in mind that speaking the truth in this work is about expressing feelings as they occur. Speaking your truth and having a voice is not about giving opinions, judgments, and criticism. Having a voice is being able to tell someone when you feel sad, happy, angry, shamed, judged, scared. When you can release these kinds of feelings, your body is free and back in balance.

MT: How did we get so off-balance in the first place?

WL: We learned communication patterns from our family of origin, and when we were children we needed a safe place and safe people to teach us that all feelings are natural, normal, and an important part of our body, mind, and spirit. In some families, children were taught to stay quiet, be seen and not heard, not be so loud, keep family business private business, and were shamed for crying or being angry. People learned that it is not safe to have a voice and speak the truth within. Subsequently, when you do not practice speaking your truth or you have to hide your real truth out of fear, you begin to question who you are and what your truth even is. You never really learn how to honor yourself or validate your feelings. If all this happens and continues, a person never learns to trust their intuition and inner knowing, becoming caught in a web of confusion and usually unhealthy communication patterns.

MT: What do you mean by "change your story" and our "personal myths?"

WL: Simply, your current story is the personal myth you are living in the now complete with beliefs, patterns, core issues, feelings, thoughts, and actions. Most people are living this "default" program unconsciously doing the same things every day and having the same results in a continuously recurring round of occurrences.

If you are lucky, the day comes when you will hear the call to awaken to a new self, a new life, or perhaps a new path. At this point, you become the initiate, the student ready for a new journey into the unknown. What an incredible time this can be! Part of the journey is discovering the whole story, opening to the personal myths and false beliefs taken on during your lifetime. If you stay the course and take the risk to walk away from the security of old ways and thinking, and discover your false beliefs, you will walk through the middle, healing and transforming old pain. Then and only then you will come out of the woods into a new life with a new story, a new myth to live by and one that you have designed yourself.

In order to experience real true love and the joy of being alive...to be able to practice the ideas in Intimacy Without Responsibility, one needs to feel whole and healthy and that is a process. When you begin to do personal healing work, you get to discover all aspects of how you came to be you. There will be aspects of your personality you love and want to keep, and there may be other parts where you desire change and transformation.

MT: You have the course organized in seven acts, with seven lessons in each act. Tell me about the process a student will go through.

WL: Thank you for noticing the number seven, the symbolism of which I love and work with often. Seven to me is about depth healing, inner work, and contemplation. The course is divided into seven main topics/chapters...and each day of the week, of which there are 7, the student is presented with a new principle that is truly an affirmation related to that main topic for the week.

The affirmation principle is written in the first person so students can really feel the ideas, take them in, contemplate, write about, and imprint what I believe to be awe-inspiring concepts for the mind to take in. Each day also includes written assignments to help personalize the work. All of this is integrated with the notion that one is here on the earth for their own soul's evolution, not to take care of someone else.

In the middle of the course I begin to touch on the thought that all of one's life experiences from birth until today translate into your present self and belief system with core issues that get activated by people and the environment. Energetically, your body remembers everything, especially old wounds, traumas, and hurts, which eventually get reenacted in relationships.

Any unfinished business from your past will always come up with others because you will unconsciously attract it. There is a lot of amazing information in this chapter explaining how and why wound reenactment occurs.

In the middle section, a week is spent understanding responsibility vs. blame, a very significant matter to comprehend. In the last two weeks of the work, students are introduced to the application of the universal laws that apply to manifesting the love you want. Students will come to understand how our words and feelings create our future; how important it is to give energy to what we want vs. complaining about what is going wrong. During the last week of the work, the course closes with the truth that intimacy without responsibility is a process of moving toward higher consciousness and higher mind.

MT: You provide a video for each lesson, and each one is charming! Tell me about your videos.

WL: Thank you. I love the videos as well. I created them as a way for students to imprint/re-imprint old messages and beliefs toward the ability to become emotionally free and practice the principles presented in the course. Each video matches the teaching of the day. Instructions explain that students will say each affirmation aloud, say the word yes after each one while running the right hand down the midline of the body. This is all about reprogramming the brain, a major part of all the work. The course itself is seven weeks as mentioned earlier, a time frame that will give the mind just what it needs to learn and practice something new.

Course Overview

Do you find it difficult to speak your truth to the one you love? Do you often censor your true feelings so you do not hurt someone else? When in the presence of others we sometimes find it hard to be authentic, and end up hiding our joy, pain, truth, or love. It can be challenging to be in relationships with others and stay true to ourselves, rather than being enmeshed with, or feeling abandoned by, the other. We may find it hard to let go of wanting to save or fix another and just take care of our own selves. Having intimacy without responsibility for others is about practicing the art and skill of freedom within the relationship, and moving toward more love and self-care. When we truly heal and take care of our own issues, we are able to love more deeply. You can discover and live your passions, mission and purpose and become committed to your own wholeness and still deeply love someone else. It is possible to speak your truth, have a voice, and re-program conscious and unconscious beliefs that say you are responsible for another person's feelings or happiness. Through daily teachings, mind intervention practice videos, and assignments, you will become the master of the enlightened relationship!


How Does It Work?

Starting today, you will receive a new lesson every day for 7 weeks (total of 49 lessons). Each lesson is yours to keep and you'll be able to refer back to it whenever you want. And if you miss a lesson or are too busy to get to it that day, each lesson will conveniently remain in your account so you won't have to search for it when you're ready to get back to it.


Get Started Now

We are offering this course with the option of selecting how much you want to pay. No matter how much you pay, you'll be getting the same course as everybody else. We simply trust that people are honest and will support the author of the course with whatever they can afford. And if you are not 100% satisfied, we will refund your money.


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Thank you, Wendyne, for all of your insights. Without parents modeling healthy relationship behavior, most of us will struggle in some way. It is wonderful to have your guiding hand teach us how to have intimacy without responsibility. Until next time.

Be well,

Madisyn Taylor
Cofounder, Editor-in-Chief
DailyOM