You could find it easier to reflect today on your role in your family's dynamics, and this may compel you to accept more responsibility for past actions. Even though the things that have happened might not be your sole responsibility, this might be a good time to think about the effect of your reactions to the past. Perhaps today you can contemplate the ways you responded and whether or not your actions were healthy. To do so, you could think back to an incident that impacted you. Try looking at this event as if you were an impartial observer. Through the realizations you gain from this perspective, you may see that the things that happened were either not as important as you thought or were the result of a combination of factors. This mind-set may help you gain greater empathy for everyone involved, including yourself.

Observing our past though the lens of an outsider gives us an alternate viewpoint on our experiences. When we think about an event, the mental scenes we create are usually colored by our feelings and judgments. Seeing the event from the outside, however, allows us to view it as if it were a play. We begin to realize that everyone had a part and was simply operating on their internal script. We, in turn, see that we were doing the same and understand more deeply our own responsibility in the matter. By reflecting upon your past objectively today, you will learn to recognize your own patterns and how they affect your present actions.