One of the most difficult challenges in life is learning not to take things to heart or hold on to it. We take so much of what comes our way to heart — especially when we’re younger or very sensitive. This can be overwhelming and unproductive if it throws us off balance on a regular basis. When we are feeling criticized or attacked from all directions, it becomes very difficult for us to recover and continue to speak and act our truth. This is when we would do well to remember the old saying about letting certain things roll off us — like water off a duck’s back.
Most of the time, the attacks and criticisms of others have much more to do with them and how they are feeling than with us. If we get caught up in trying to adjust ourselves to other people’s negative energy, we lose touch with our core. In fact, these slings and arrows offer us the opportunity to strengthen our core sense of self as we learn to dodge and deflect other people’s misdirected negativity. The more we do this, the more we are able to discern what belongs to us and what belongs to other people. With practice, we become masters of our energetic integrity, refusing to serve as targets for the disowned anger and frustration of the people around us.
Eventually, we will be able to hear the feedback that others have to offer, taking in anything that might be constructive and releasing that which has nothing to do with us. First, though, we need to tend to ourselves compassionately by recognizing when we can’t take something in from the outside without hurting ourselves. This is when we make like a duck, shaking it off and letting it roll off our back as we continue our way in the world.
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