The following is an excerpt from the "Get Him Off Your Mind in 28 Days" on-line course. If you would like to enroll in the course, click here.
Nobody – I don't care who they are – deserves the amount of time and energy you're giving whomever it is that's on your mind right now.
It is time to take the first step towards re-directing your mental focus and clarity back to you and your life, where it belongs, and not to his. Not only will you break the cycle of thinking too much about this man you can't get off your mind, but you'll also break the pattern of obsessively thinking about any guy, once and for all.
To begin with, we're going to work on recognizing the fact that this thought pattern is taking too much precedence in your life. You'll have a chance to breathe a little and give yourself time and space to analyze what's going on.
If you're reading this right now, chances are a lot of your time goes to thinking about him. And that means a lot of your life force energy is going to him, too. I know that "addiction" is a very strong word, but that's kind of what this is. Do you think of him every hour? Several times a day? Or all day long? Are you checking your phone to see if he's texted or emailed, or are you secretly stalking him on Facebook, doing background checks on all his "friends" and reading into their comments on his posts? If the answer is yes, you're in good company. About 99% of the women I've worked with who can't get certain men off their minds do the exact same thing you're doing right now. You are not strange, obsessive, or crazy. You are perfectly normal and in fact quite sane. You are like many of the women – successful, beautiful, well-rounded doctors, lawyers, models, actresses, students, therapists, artists – I've seen in my practice as an Intuitive Consultant who are dealing with ! the same thing that you are.
Think of this assignment as something you'll want to try and adhere to.
I'm not expecting you to boot him out of your mind and energy field "cold turkey"…but you have to start somewhere!
Assignment:
If you have his contact information at hand, that increases the odds that you might reach out to him and contact him, which will A) give you an opportunity to do something that appears desperate and that you will later find embarrassing, and/or B) provide him with an(other?) opportunity to either blow you off, tell everyone that you're a stalker (which is what happened to my client Christine), or reject you.
So take a deep breath, and…
• Erase his number from your phone. If you have it memorized, force yourself to un-memorize it.
• Delete his email address
• Block him from Skype
• Do not look on his Facebook or Linked In page.
• Un-friend him if you are friends on Facebook (if this seems too drastic, don't do it – but don't let yourself get sucked in to his updates, etc).
• Delete all the emails and text messages he sent you…
• As well as the ones you sent him…
• and then empty them from your trash folder.
This is a lot of disconnecting to do all at once, so if you can do all of these things, you are a superhero of epic proportions! If you can't do it all at once, try just doing a couple of these things per week.
Whatever the situation is with this guy, tell your closest friends what you're doing, and enlist their support. Have one or two friends "on-call" who you can call or text instead of calling or texting him. Tell yourself this: if he was truly, madly, deeply in love with you, you'd know. So trust your gut, and be brave.
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