It is important that we all find people that believe in us just as we believe in others.
There are times in our lives when we may find ourselves facing challenges that can seem overwhelming. The situation or task we are struggling with seems hopeless, and it is easy to stop believing in ourselves, our goals, and our dreams. It is during these moments that it can be reassuring and reaffirming to turn to the people in our lives who do believe in us, especially when we are finding it hard to believe in ourselves. An encouraging word, a reassuring look, or hearing the words "I believe in you" from someone who matters can help us turn our situations around in an instant.
Everybody has someone who believes in them, whether this person is a teacher, parent, friend, loved one, or an employer. Often their belief can wrap us in warmth, bolster us, and offer us a supportive hand to grab onto until we can regain our own support. Having that special person who believes in our abilities and our worth is a wonderful gift. But when we are feeling unworthy, it may be difficult to take in something so precious. We may even feel like we need to do it all on our own and that we shouldn't be asking for help. However, in letting their belief and support impact you, you are acknowledging the part of yourself that knows you are worthy of trust and esteem. By allowing them to believe in you, your own belief in yourself and your abilities will start to emerge again. Borrow their vision, and you can make it your own.
If your special someone is not there to spur you on, you also can lift yourself up with the gift of a positive image. When you feel uncertain, you can create a vision of the future you desire that will serve as a beacon of light. To do so, simply imagine a future that is exactly as you'd like it to be. Imagine in detail how you feel, what you are doing, and how others are responding to you. Make your vision as real as possible, and allow your doubts to recede so you can focus solely on the goal you seek. The more intently you focus on the image of what you want, your belief in yourself will step to the forefront, making it easier for the universe to open up a path and guide you.
Have you ever been excited and at the same time totally afraid? Has that fear held you back from living your life fully, totally? In this series, we will share with you seven deep wisdoms as taught by Anand and captured through in-depth, never before released footage from the award-winning documentary The Highest Pass and the soon-to-be-released TV series The Four Sacred Peaks. In addition to the breathtaking scenery, you'll experience Anand's unique ability to encourage those around him to rise up, to meet our true selves, and to realize our fullest potentials. Each lesson stands on it's own and can be revisited anytime. Not all of us can take the time or resources to travel to India for three weeks, but now you can be guided by a master as if you were there. And in time, we soon become the wisdom. Does fear still exist? Of course, but we learn to have more love than fear. To know how to rise above.
If your tendency is to try and change other people, take some time to explore why you feel the need to do so.
Our perception of humanity as a whole is, to a large extent, dualistic. We paint people with a broad brush—some are like us, sharing our opinions and our attitudes, while others are different. Our commitment to values we have chosen to embrace is often so strong that we are easily convinced that our way is the right way. We may find ourselves frustrated by those who view the world from an alternate vantage point and make use of unusual strategies when coping with life's challenges. However ardently we believe that these people would be happier and more satisfied following our lead, we should resist the temptation to try to change them. Every human being has been blessed with a unique nature that cannot be altered by outside forces. We are who we are at any one point in our lives for a reason, and no one person can say for certain what another should be like.
The reasons we try to change one another are numerous. Since we have learned over time to flourish in the richness of lives we have built, we may come to believe that we are qualified to speak on behalf of the greater source. The sum total of our knowledge will never compare to what we do not know, however, and our understanding of others' lives will forever be limited. The potential we see in the people who are a part of our lives will never be precisely the same as our own, so we do these individuals a disservice when we make assumptions about their intentions, preferences, and goals. Our power lies in our ability to accept others for all their quirks and differences and to let go of the need to control every element of our existence. We can love people for who they are, embracing their uniqueness, or we can love them as human beings from afar.
Your ability to influence people may grow more sophisticated because others sense that you respect their right to be themselves, but you will likely spend more time gazing inward, into the one person you can change: yourself.
If you are not moving steadily in the direction of what you say you want, you can be certain that you are sabotaging yourself somewhere. In this on-line course from the late #1 New York Times best-selling author Debbie Ford, you will learn 14 key lessons to help you overcome self-sabotage.
Your relationship with your own "self" is the most important relationship you will ever have in your lifetime.
Dear Friends,
February is always an interesting month as we have moved completely out of the winter holiday season and back into our routines. Some of you made resolutions for the year and are keeping up with them. Others may have had a harder time reaching their goals. If you are part of the latter group, it is important not to be hard on yourself if you have lost track of a goal you wanted to reach. Spending time in quiet contemplation can bring insight and new ideas about how to get back on track again and in tune with your true self.
During February we will be taking a closer look at relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself. Focusing on relationships seemed a good fit for the month in which Valentine's Day resides. This day can bring up many issues for people about love—finding love, hanging onto love, love in the process of change. I think it is also important to look at the most important relationship of all—the one you have with yourself.
Often when we think of being in a relationship, we think of romantic love, but in truth, anybody we spend time with brings us into relationship with that person. In our day-to-day life we may find our self in relationship with coworkers, friends, family members, teachers, our children, the check-out lady at the grocery store, our neighbors, and, of course, ourselves. Your relationship with your own "self" is above all, the most important relationship you will ever have in your lifetime, but how we come to a place of symbiosis with our self is where so many people get stuck. Interestingly, it is in our relations with other people that we learn the most about ourselves, and it is safe to say that each person we meet gives us opportunities for growth and learning. Our relationships act as mirrors, reflecting back to us what we must see, many times something we don't want to see.
Over the next four Mondays, we will be exploring relationships further and how to navigate all kinds of relationships, including partnership with another. Additionally here are a few of our online courses about relationships if you are ready to make change in this area of your life. Wrapping up in a blanket and taking a course can be a great way to spend a cold winter's day.
Find True Love in 27 Days by Ellen Whitehurst. This course covers topics that will help you release the fear of falling in love, release disappointment of past heartache, and attract everlasting love. Ellen offers transformational writing exercises along with tips, tricks, and techniques to help you find true love no matter your circumstances. more info
Intimacy Without Responsibility by Wendyne Limber. In this course you will learn to be in a relationship without taking on the responsibility of another. If you find it difficult to be your authentic self in a relationship, Wendyne's 49-day course can help shift your pattern. Lessons include daily teachings, videos, and assignments to get you well on your way to experiencing conscious love. more info
Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships by Rhonda Finding. Rhonda is an author and psychotherapist whose eight-week course will help you stop obsessing about partners that are not emotionally available. Additional topics covered in this course are: stop acting desperate, increase your self-confidence, allow love to come to you, and how to get back on track if you have a setback. Lessons will offer writing exercises as well as audio advice and meditations. more info
Sadie Nardini joins up with Ariel Towne, the Feng Shui Guy, to bring you this 21 day Personal Revolution that will transform your life from the inside out! Each day you'll get 3 new online videos; a joint ConverSHUItion, a yoga pose from Sadie and a Feng Shui tip from Ariel. Each day for 21 amazing days, you will receive Sadie and Ariel's revolutionary inspirations, yoga moves and action steps you can use to cleanse, clear, and welcome in all the great things that are waiting for you to make a clear statement of purpose, and make the space required for your best body, mind, heart and life to come rushing in! Fast, fun, easy and entirely effective, Ariel Towne and Sadie Nardini promise a total positive transformation as you remove obstacle after obstacle on the your way to health, happiness, prosperity, loving relationships and so, so much more. What have you got to lose? Only all your limitations!
